Unique pluses?/minuses on me
I'm a pretty big reader/information intaker type. By that I mean when I'm bored in line or doing long drives or working out I'm always reading information or listening to podcasts/audiobooks and such. Now that I've started writing this I'm not really sure why I started this post in this way. I guess the point is something I've been hearing/reading about lately as it seems to keep coming up and it kind of reminds me in ways that I'm different. There is a popular tik tok from a few months back where people would point to the reasons they are single and it made me think of this stuff.
The funny thing is I think I'm one of the most compatible people there can be. For example, I can live with pretty much any roommate with no issues. I clean up after myself, i'm non-confrontational, I don't get offended, I dont look for arguments, I never make impulsive negative moves. I'm the typ eof person who writes the angry email and then deletes it. Except I don't write it when I'm angry, I write it a day or two after I cool down and then I delete it the following day, lol. I'm very open minded, non-judgemental and when I say those things I really am. I can be friends with someone with polar opposite beliefs that are completely contradictory.
In fact, I honestly think the main compatibility things I believe I need is someone who is all in with me being fully feminized into a girl, likes that aspect and prefers/okay/wants me in a very submissive role. There are many plusses/minues after that ofcourse, but that is kind of a chemistry thing.
Anyways, this is a long winded way for me to get to a few issues that really work against me when it comes to finding a future mate and I feel are kind of unique in there own in that most other people dont' have that, and then put into combination together makes me kind of a special case.
The first is a topic I've always avoided till now and that is politics. It is something that I avoided because honestly I'd be happy to never discuss politics, only listen to the others opinion, never voice my own opinion and be with someone complete opposite of me politically. That said, we are living in a very polarizing time where I actively see profiles and people saying that they will not date someone of different political beliefs. In fact, it is so bad now that Bernie Sanders Voteres will not date Elizabeth Warren voters and vice versa. Lol, its so bad that I realized I forgot to capitlize one of those two and in order to avoid offending the other, i went back and fixed that. I'm actually not fixing my spelling much any more because I've been adviced that it helps emphasize men being smarter then me and that guys like that. Hehe, Speaking of which, I'm also not avoiding tangents anymore. One of my issues is that i'm used to being reserved and straight forward in my talking, so I've been working on saying whatever comes to my mind both to increase how much I talk and also be less discplined in taht way.
ANyways, back to the politics thing. Because of the political divide it occured to be that If I mention where I am at that it might be a plus since it puts me heavily into the minority considering my position. Also emphasizing that its a complete non-issue for me if you cared about it and I would never bring it up, hopefully someone who doesn't like that aspect of me would be okay with it, or at least think of it as more proof of why I should not think for myself. Or someone who agrees with it may consider me whereas they wouldnt' have because of preconcieved notions of me.
So I'm a libertarian, more into the conservative camp, but libertarian is the best way to put it. I'm very much into the I let you live your life the way you want to, you let me live my life the way I want to and as long as we don't force our beliefs onto the other we are good. That the role of government is to protect the population and mediate disputes. In order to not be a biased mediator, that means the government should be involved in as little as possible. For example, i'm not a big fan of the government mediating disputes between me (say on taxes) and the government. Hehe. I'm pro second ammendment because of a person's right to defend themselves from villians and the government as a final check on it. I'm also a Trump supporter (duDuhDuh!!!!!). But mainly because he is an outsider that I believe genuniely wants what is best for the country even if he does some bad policies. I rather have someone genuniely trying to make the country better because they believe in it then someone only in it for their own power gain which most politicans are. Once again though, I really hope nobody would reject me because of that because as mentioned, its a non-issue for me and I have no problem not caring about it.
So why did I start with that, because I'm transitioning fully to female! What i just said is very against LGBT stereotypical beliefs and women's stereotypical beliefs. I've actually seen a lot lately that guys are single/giving up because they keep running into women so entrenched in leftist politics that I figure I should point that out on me. Speaking of which, that is also why I generally don't like being associated with the Trans community/lgbt and such. I'm all for them being them, but I'm very much a your iether a boy or a girl mentality, and don't like the idea of anyone pushing there ideas and forcing others to conform to it. I value the recourses that community has for me, but I have no will to be associated with them. So now that is item number two that makes me unique and reason I'm single. I'm not the "best of both worlds" type. I dont like the trans phase and I dont share many of the beliefs of that community. I"m a total "botom" and plan to transition fully to female as soon as possible. Thus I run into guys who must be okay with that aspect of me rather then just go with a cis female.
I want to spend a moment to emphasize how those things Isolate me. I'm in the trans category and even afterwords, will have to disclose as some point (for a healthy relationship) that I was born a boy. That means most people into me would prefer genetic girls. But if I go to people okay with that, most of them are of the LGBT/left leaning politics type who would hate my beliefs and i'm not sure they wo9uld be okay with me having those opinions even if I never voiced them or pretended otherwise. I need to write a post on contrast soona nd how attracted to that I am by the way!
Take those things aside and I'm tall (6'3) which I really ahte but can't fix. Most prefer a shorter girl and I can agree witht hat, unfortunately can't fix that aspect of myself. I do have things going for me like naturally good/wavy hair, blue eyes, more naturally smooth body/skin wise, naturally unisex voice and such, but the tall thing hurts.
Well there you have it. Multiple reasons why I may be single for a loooong time, lol. It is kind of funny though, im a natural homebody/introvert. The only social contact I do want is marriage/life long relationship. Even with or without a few friends I'd be okay with that. Just need that minimum of one person, hehe
The funny thing is I think I'm one of the most compatible people there can be. For example, I can live with pretty much any roommate with no issues. I clean up after myself, i'm non-confrontational, I don't get offended, I dont look for arguments, I never make impulsive negative moves. I'm the typ eof person who writes the angry email and then deletes it. Except I don't write it when I'm angry, I write it a day or two after I cool down and then I delete it the following day, lol. I'm very open minded, non-judgemental and when I say those things I really am. I can be friends with someone with polar opposite beliefs that are completely contradictory.
In fact, I honestly think the main compatibility things I believe I need is someone who is all in with me being fully feminized into a girl, likes that aspect and prefers/okay/wants me in a very submissive role. There are many plusses/minues after that ofcourse, but that is kind of a chemistry thing.
Anyways, this is a long winded way for me to get to a few issues that really work against me when it comes to finding a future mate and I feel are kind of unique in there own in that most other people dont' have that, and then put into combination together makes me kind of a special case.
The first is a topic I've always avoided till now and that is politics. It is something that I avoided because honestly I'd be happy to never discuss politics, only listen to the others opinion, never voice my own opinion and be with someone complete opposite of me politically. That said, we are living in a very polarizing time where I actively see profiles and people saying that they will not date someone of different political beliefs. In fact, it is so bad now that Bernie Sanders Voteres will not date Elizabeth Warren voters and vice versa. Lol, its so bad that I realized I forgot to capitlize one of those two and in order to avoid offending the other, i went back and fixed that. I'm actually not fixing my spelling much any more because I've been adviced that it helps emphasize men being smarter then me and that guys like that. Hehe, Speaking of which, I'm also not avoiding tangents anymore. One of my issues is that i'm used to being reserved and straight forward in my talking, so I've been working on saying whatever comes to my mind both to increase how much I talk and also be less discplined in taht way.
ANyways, back to the politics thing. Because of the political divide it occured to be that If I mention where I am at that it might be a plus since it puts me heavily into the minority considering my position. Also emphasizing that its a complete non-issue for me if you cared about it and I would never bring it up, hopefully someone who doesn't like that aspect of me would be okay with it, or at least think of it as more proof of why I should not think for myself. Or someone who agrees with it may consider me whereas they wouldnt' have because of preconcieved notions of me.
So I'm a libertarian, more into the conservative camp, but libertarian is the best way to put it. I'm very much into the I let you live your life the way you want to, you let me live my life the way I want to and as long as we don't force our beliefs onto the other we are good. That the role of government is to protect the population and mediate disputes. In order to not be a biased mediator, that means the government should be involved in as little as possible. For example, i'm not a big fan of the government mediating disputes between me (say on taxes) and the government. Hehe. I'm pro second ammendment because of a person's right to defend themselves from villians and the government as a final check on it. I'm also a Trump supporter (duDuhDuh!!!!!). But mainly because he is an outsider that I believe genuniely wants what is best for the country even if he does some bad policies. I rather have someone genuniely trying to make the country better because they believe in it then someone only in it for their own power gain which most politicans are. Once again though, I really hope nobody would reject me because of that because as mentioned, its a non-issue for me and I have no problem not caring about it.
So why did I start with that, because I'm transitioning fully to female! What i just said is very against LGBT stereotypical beliefs and women's stereotypical beliefs. I've actually seen a lot lately that guys are single/giving up because they keep running into women so entrenched in leftist politics that I figure I should point that out on me. Speaking of which, that is also why I generally don't like being associated with the Trans community/lgbt and such. I'm all for them being them, but I'm very much a your iether a boy or a girl mentality, and don't like the idea of anyone pushing there ideas and forcing others to conform to it. I value the recourses that community has for me, but I have no will to be associated with them. So now that is item number two that makes me unique and reason I'm single. I'm not the "best of both worlds" type. I dont like the trans phase and I dont share many of the beliefs of that community. I"m a total "botom" and plan to transition fully to female as soon as possible. Thus I run into guys who must be okay with that aspect of me rather then just go with a cis female.
I want to spend a moment to emphasize how those things Isolate me. I'm in the trans category and even afterwords, will have to disclose as some point (for a healthy relationship) that I was born a boy. That means most people into me would prefer genetic girls. But if I go to people okay with that, most of them are of the LGBT/left leaning politics type who would hate my beliefs and i'm not sure they wo9uld be okay with me having those opinions even if I never voiced them or pretended otherwise. I need to write a post on contrast soona nd how attracted to that I am by the way!
Take those things aside and I'm tall (6'3) which I really ahte but can't fix. Most prefer a shorter girl and I can agree witht hat, unfortunately can't fix that aspect of myself. I do have things going for me like naturally good/wavy hair, blue eyes, more naturally smooth body/skin wise, naturally unisex voice and such, but the tall thing hurts.
Well there you have it. Multiple reasons why I may be single for a loooong time, lol. It is kind of funny though, im a natural homebody/introvert. The only social contact I do want is marriage/life long relationship. Even with or without a few friends I'd be okay with that. Just need that minimum of one person, hehe
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